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I hate to burst your bubble, but you aren't the first human to experience the EPIC turmoil you are suffering through. In fact, almost every human being suffers through virtually the same struggles in life, and while The Struggle Is Real to you, there is always someone out there suffering worse than you; just as there is someone out there who has it better than you. The grass is greener, the Jones's have it all, and we all have First World Problems. This post is all about bursting the bubble on the fallacies of the perfect life you see on Instagram, and help you overcome your IRL problems of adulting.
So what are these Struggle Bubbles? Well, you have heard them before, and every single one of your problems falls into one of these categories, I promise... and if you think I'm wrong, please tell me what your problem is, let's talk about it, hell lets solve it.
The 4 Struggle Bubbles:
Contextual:
The first struggle bubble is Contextual. We all live in the real world, (except Alexa, I think she might be the queen of the Matrix) and we all have real world problems. Many of us suffer with problems from outside forces. These are things like our job, the city we we live in, the state of the economy, who got voted off the island, or which a$$-hat stole your meal prep- from the fridge at work. These problems are sometimes things we can't change, and sometimes they take significantly more effort to and time to overcome. These things are also the reason why so many of us are addicted to things like Coffee, Social Media, and Reality TV. It helps us cope with situations that we feel are outside of our control.
Interpersonal Problems:
This struggle bubble is more about the issues we have with other people. These problems tend to be difficult to face because they involve the thoughts, feelings and actions of others. It's hard enough when adulting to control the things that come out of our own mouths, let alone others. These problems can be more obvious on the surface. You have identified the a$$-hat fridge-bandit and are waging war on their taste-buds, you're fighting with your significant other, neighbor, boss, parent, Uber Driver etc. Interpersonal problems often stress us out, because deep down we all want to be liked, or at least feel like we belong. Humans are communal beings, and we need good relationships for survival.
Outer-self:
This bubble is about the stuff we show other people. These issues are often translated into goals and are things like our health, or wanting to lose 10lbs, needing a raise so that we can buy a new car. Sometimes there is cross-over and two bubbles converge, where you might have a goal to be in a relationship or to get married, although this involves another persons input, this feels personal to you. These things are all obtainable, in fact, there are pretty clear strategies for obtaining most anything the outer-self desires. The outer-self struggles can be simple achievable goals or sometimes maybe lead us to something more internal.
Inner-self:
This one often confuses many of us and we relate our inner struggles with happiness. Now, don't get me wrong, the things we struggle with internally can sometimes result in unhappiness. However, we often put things on a pedestal, like they're a trophy to be won "I will be happy when....(insert personal achievement or possibly unrealistic goal here)." We often treat happiness as a result of something, it is equally as import to master as is maintaining your health, managing your money, and cultivating relationships. The inner self struggle bubble is really more about our values and our beliefs. Typically bursting any of the other struggle bubbles might require at least a peak into the Inner-Self Bubble.
The Universal Truths:
Now, that you are all thinking about your problems, and are looking for a way to prove to me that it doesn't fall into one of these categories; let me fill you in on the Universal Truths, that are about to burst those struggle bubbles. These Truths are the main principals for solving ANY of your problems. I will break these down in later posts, and go more in depth in my videos, but if you wrap you minds around these 5 Universal Truths you will be armed to take on what ever life throws at you.
Truth Numero Uno:
You get that which you want most. Let me say that again with some emphasis; YOU will get whatever you want the MOST. I know you are thinking "This B!TC# is crazy- if I had what I wanted most, I wouldn't have this problem!" Trust me this one will all make sense by the time you get to the end of the list. (and if it doesn't- reach out to me, and school me, and I'll still help you solve your problem.)
Truth Number 2:
It's not me, It's you! Ok by now I am sure I'm starting to piss you off. The truth is, it doesn't matter who's fault it is, it's still your problem, and the only way you are going to get it solved, is by taking responsibility for it. This can mean taking responsibility for the causes, but more importantly for the actions to solve it. (Keep an eye out for the Responsibility Boat video coming soon!)
Truth Number 3:
You're not ready; but do it anyway. This one is a bit tricky. If you were ready to solve the problem, you would be focused on the solution, not the problem. A solution is a goal or objective, and indicates forward momentum. A problem suggests that you are stuck, and not moving forward. If you are stuck it means you are not ready or able to move forward. This can be because you lack the tools, resources, or the motivation. This one, like number 2 is a can of worms, and I'll get into that in a bit, but basically, do it anyway. Actions lead to motivation, and focus on the goal, not the gap.
Truth No. 4:
This is not the first time you have had this problem, and it's going to happen again. Every feel like the movie 'Ground-Hog Day' is basically your life's problems. Well just like in the movie, everything is going to be the same, until you change. You are going to experience some form of the same problem until you stop tolerating what you are getting. Here is where we circle back to Universal Truth Numero Uno: You get that which you want most. You are getting what you want most, because you are tolerating the problem. I hate to tell you, but you want your financial problems more than you want a solution, you want all that drama more than you want a healthy relationship, you want to be fat more than you want to be healthy.
I am sure I am going to get some flack for that last one, but if you can take a long hard look at yourself and take responsibility for the problems, focus on the solutions, and take action, raise your standards and stop tolerating the BS, then you will burst every damn struggle bubble you find yourself in. The GYST List is dedicated to helping you through that process exactly.
Ok, So there is one more Universal Truth. This one isn't as brash as the others and kind of the key to it all.
Truth Number 5:
You can Have, Do, or Be ANYTHING. Yes, Anything!. Now, for those of you who already subscribe to the Law of Attraction, or Power of the Universe, or worship the Giant Spaghetti Monster in the Sky, or God, or Dog (if you are dyslexic), Allah or Mr. Rogers, you have been told in some form or fashion, that 'if you can imagine it, you can have it.' If you can imagine it... and believe that you can have it, it's yours. It will inevitably take some sweat and often a little blood, tears, all of the Universal Truths, but you can have it. OK.... But HOW?!
I'll give you a hint. You aren't the first human on this planet. You aren't the first one to get a new job, or start a business, owe the IRS, want a new car, or to buy a house, get married, or divorced, move to a new country, or to earn gazillions of dollars. You are just as deserving, and capable and worthy as anyone else who has already done all of that. You are equally as capable, worthy and deserving of breathing as the next guy, so what makes you worthy of oxygen, but not any other needs or wants? If you are reading this, you have at least an ounce of "be a better me" inside of you, which in my book, makes you worthy and capable… of anything!
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